Fairy Tales

Thursday, December 8, 2011

The other day, I had been sitting talking with a friend about life and the curves it sends us.  As a joke, she said, "Ugh... you're depressing.  I'm depressed after talking to you."

Oops.

I don't mean to be depressing.  Like everyone else, I am just trying to figure life out.  Life isn't always a tea party... sometimes it's a storm in a cup.

I blame fairy tales for spinning their web of deceit in our youth.  Some parents don't want their children playing with Barbie because of what she looks like.  Personally, I have always like Barbie because there is nothing that girl cannot do!  If you want to ban something, ban fairy tales.  Snow White met her prince and they lived "happily ever after". Sleeping Beauty met her prince and they lived "happily ever after.  Cinderella met her prince and they lived, you guessed it, "happily ever after".  Talk about a fairytale... happily ever after... I am quite sure Cinderella would have had to pay for insurance and upkeep on her pumpkin coach.  And imagine the housekeeping and maintenance on a castle... never ending! 

Life doesn't always have a fairytale ending.  I think our Western society believes everyone should have a happy ending.  We tend not to cope with illness and death very well anymore... shocked when it happens; avoid it when we can. 

Are we constantly thinking that happiness is just around the next corner?  Think that and we might just be let down.  We don't know what is around the next corner.  Happiness should be within us, not coming from another source... another person, another experience.

I say this, as I look around dad's care home, and all those people are there alone.  I say, you'd better like your own company, and be happy with yourself... because one day, if you are lucky enough, you are going to be spending a lot of time with your own company.  Many people marry with the thought that they will grown old together.  Maybe they will, and again, maybe they won't.  Age, disease and senility take over, and it isn't always pretty.

Man!  I AM depressing!  This is a large note to myself as well.  To forget the fairytale... that life is what you make it. No two lives are the same.  Be happy within yourself, right now.  Don't be waiting for someone to come along to make you happy, or an experience to bring about bliss.

Wow... expect big changes from me!